40 Questions We’re Afraid to Ask – #27
I’m sure very few of us would have to think very hard to remember a time when we didn’t speak up when we should have.
Was it in school when I saw a kid bullying another kid?
Was it at work when my boss or a fellow employee ridiculed another fellow employee . . . or me?
Was it when I saw that post on Facebook concerning an issue about which I have a pretty strong opinion?
Was it the other night when I was out with friends and one of them made a racial slur or derogatory comment about someone?
Was it at that last board meeting?
Was it when my spouse or partner said or did something that I didn’t like or agree with?
Was it when my best friend said or did something that I didn’t like or agree with?
Was it in a situation of domestic abuse or violence?
Why didn’t I speak up?
When this happens — and it has happened to all of us at one time or another — we have to ask ourselves why we didn’t speak up.
Was it out of fear of being ridiculed ourselves, of losing face, of losing my job or position
Was it because I didn’t think anybody would listen?
Did I think my speaking up wouldn’t do any good anyway?
Was I afraid of making somebody mad?
Was it out of fear of personal safety?
What was the result of deciding not to speak up?
Did I feel guilty later?
Did I lose face anyway?
Did I lose my friendship with the person who was the victim of undeserved ridicule, criticism or abuse?
Do I still regret not say anything and am letting it eat at me?
Were decisions made against my will?
Ask yourself . . .
Author and personal development expert Carol Tuttle says there are two things we need to consider in such situations:
Am I being true to myself?
What will support my personal happiness?
I love this video, in which Carol discusses this very issue with her daughter Anne.
So . . . when was the last time you didn’t speak up when you should have?
What will you do next time?