Barriers to love
I have come to the conclusion that at the core of every problem we face in life are the barriers to love that we tend to put into place — barriers both within and among ourselves as human beings.
Remember the old Beatles tune, “All You Need is Love“? I happened to hear that song this morning for the first time in years, and I started really listening to those now-classic lyrics from so many years ago.
There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done
Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
Nothing you can make that can’t be made
No one you can save that can’t be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
Nothing you can know that isn’t known
Nothing you can see that isn’t shown
Nowhere you can be that isn’t where you’re meant to be
All you need is love. Love is all you need.
As is often the case with this crazy brain of mine,
thoughts began flooding my mind . . .
- In Strategic Intervention we talk a lot about the Six Human Needs and how each of these needs (particularly the first four) serves as a driving force in our lives at some level — that being different for each of us. For some it’s certainty, for others it’s a sense of uncertainty and variety in life, for others it’s significance and the need to feel important and/or appreciated, and so on. But is not the need for love ultimately the driving force for all of us and all we do, and meeting these other needs are simply various paths to the same ultimate goal? I don’t know for sure, but it’s certainly worth considering, is it not?
- Various spiritual ideologies — especially those based in the Judeo-Christian traditions — speak of the idea that we were made in the image of God. Others say that we are essentially God (or a piece thereof) since we all come from the same source and are made of the same atoms that comprise the entire Universe and everything within it.All, if not most of, these ideologies promote the idea that God (or Source, or Spirit, or the Universe) is pure love. If there is any truth to these theologies or ideologies — and, without getting into the variations among them, I believe there is — is it not then true that not only is love all we need, but it is all we are, and that the only thing blocking our fulfilling our need for love and our becoming nothing but pure love is the barriers we ourselves put into place or allow to be put into place?
Removing the barriers to love
The great Sufi poet Rumi once said, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
The reasons for those barriers are too varied to discuss here, but they can be created by physical and psychological abuse, beliefs and ideas that we have been taught about us and the world around us or have developed for one reason or another, fear, self-esteem, soured relationships, and so on and so on. These reasons can and very often do overlap, and the results can be anywhere from mild to incredibly handicapping.
Removing these barriers may seem like a daunting task, but doing so can be extremely cathartic and give us a whole new lease on life. It’s just a matter of making the decision to do so, to decide that enough is enough and that you’re tired of living a prison of hatred . . . jealousy . . . loneliness . . . pain.
What emotional barriers to love are keeping you from living the life you deserve and were meant to live?
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